It’s no secret that we’re living life to the fullest and loving everything about the west coast so far, but that doesn’t mean we don’t miss home! Ain’t nothing quite like Fall in New England so it’s definitely starting to hit us that we aren’t in Massachusetts anymore. BUT it’s all part of the process and with a few small remedies, that feeling of being homesick can be easily cured!
Here’s what works for us:
- Light a candle with smells that remind you of home. For us, this means all the autumn scents right now – pumpkin spice, cinnamon sugar, apple pie- ugh I’m picturing the warm cider and pile of leaves just thinking about it! OR even better, get yourself a homesick candle . You’re never going to find a flight for $30, but this Mass scent is sure to make you feel like you’re there if you just close your eyes.
- Keep in touch any way that you can. Just because you’re 3k miles away doesn’t mean you can’t stay in the loop – Skype sessions/group texts do wonders. I am constantly getting “FaceTimed” into birthday parties, family dinners, etc. Feeling connected is so important when maintaining relationships from back home and you have to put the effort in to let the people you care about know that you haven’t forgotten about them (that goes for your puppy, too!)
- Cooking= immediate therapy session. It’s a great skill to hone and keep you busy/distracted but you’ll feel super accomplished when you nail mom’s homemade gravy (or sauce to you non-Italians). Nothing says “adulting” quite like making a home-cooked meal from scratch. A well balanced meal will also make you feel great and keep your energy level up! For the love of God, just back away from the box mac n’ cheese and chicken nuggets.
- Hang up those pictures! Sure, your new apartment is all about independence and becoming your own individual, but who feels comfortable in plain, stark walls? Make your place feel like home with photos of your g-friends, frames of inspirational quotes, and sentimental decorations. You can even steal a blanket from your old house and keep it on the couch, just to curl up in when you feel a little lonely. Oops, did I just incriminate myself? *sorry mom, but you can’t have it back*
- Soak in your current surroundings. I know this doesn’t sound like it will help, but take my word for it. To keep positive you have to stay open-minded. Explore your city and see what it has to offer – become the local that you are 🙂 Whether it’s fashion shows, concerts, Farmer’s markets – whatever! Do things that you can’t do at home, to remind you why it’s all worth it and why you came out here in the first place. It sounds crazy, but when you can reassure yourself that you made the right decision, you won’t be as disappointed when you can’t make it to every event your peeps have going on back home.
If you’re starting to feel sappy now, go treat yourself to a good cry sesh. Don’t be scared to let the tears flows! It doesn’t mean you’re weak – you are a strong, independent female (or male #hollaa) but we all need that release now and then just to de-stress -no need to bottle it up. On that noteee.. I’m off to find my box of Kleenex.